How many roles do you play in one day? If I were to bet, it would be several! If you haven’t thought about that, I encourage you to reflect. From the second you wake up, what role do you start out with, then what does it change to?
Here are my roles each day as soon as I wake up:
- Dog mom
- Teacher (for most of the day)
- Mom/dog Mom
WOW! Those are lot of different roles to play EVERY SINGLE DAY! Not to mention “daughter” role thrown in there every now and then.
How do you calmly and seamlessly switch from role to role?
When I REFLECT, I don’t take any time at all to switch. It just happens in literally 1 second. My kids wake up, I leave myself and turn to “mom”. Once at school, I leave “mom” and turn to “teacher”. When the bell rings at the end of the day, I literally switch from “teacher” to “mom” in a matter of 30 seconds. (my kids are in the same school so they show up immediately at the end of the day).
I LOVE seeing them walk through my classroom door. It makes me so happy!! However, it gives me NO time to close out this “teacher” role and calmly switch to “mom” role.
This came EXTREMELY EVIDENT last week when my son popped in. We were going to our town’s tree lightning. It was cold and snowy. As soon as my son came into my classroom, I told my son he had to wear his boots. Well, that didn’t go over well. He FREAKED out and then it spiraled from there for a good 30-45 minutes with him flipping out and me having NO PATIENCE at all.
I dropped him off at the tree light with my Mom and went to my work holiday party. Driving home I had time to reflect on what happened and realized after talking with a friend, that I had NOT given myself time to RELAX, take some BREATHS, put ASIDE “teacher” and move to “mom”. At the end of a school day, a teacher usually is TIRED, possibly FRUSTRATED and tends to have less PATIENCE.
THIS IS NO WAY TO GO INTO “MOM” mode.
After reflecting on this situation I apologized to my son for my part in this situation. I told both of my children how I often feel at the end of a day and I need to find a way to DECOMPRESS so I can LEAVE the teaching day behind me and move into our time together as mom; HAPPY and JOYFUL.
A client I worked with last year had a similar situation. We came up with ideas on how to transfer to the next role. Ideas we came up with for her were:
- Take a few minutes to sit in the car before walking inside and take some deep breaths and relax
- Go on a walk
- As soon as you get home, go upstairs, change immediately out of work clothes and put on comfy clothes.
Well why haven’t I used any of these strategies? I figured I could just switch in a snap. This is definitely an area of growth for me. Specifically the end of my work day. Taking DEEP BREATHS, doing a quick MEDITATION, or having a little time to RELAX are all ideas for me to try.
How about you? What are the different roles you play every single day and how do you switch between them?
Living in DAILY JOY,
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